Another musical play on words? Must be time for Eharm musings!
Has been kind of a pain in the ass week as far as new matches go. I look at my matches each morning, archive a couple, leave others in the inbox, and send questions to the remaining few. Generally, what happens next is the ones I sent questions to archive me (hatehatestabbystabbyhate), the ones I would probably archive but left alone send me questions and the rest float along in the lake of no decision making that is my match inbox.
There were a couple of people that I've let languish after receiving the answers to my questions. Cute as you may be, random bald guy with glasses, when you respond to my questions with you eat to have fuel to run and wander off talking about how we have a President who hasn't ever been to Canada when the question was how much personal space do you need in a relationship, I think I won't be sending you my must haves and can't stands. Course, I haven't archived him so there he sits, with the orange circle of move on to step 2 mocking me when I log in.
I had moved on to the email stage with two fellows: the player and the butterfly man.
Of course, the one I'm most interested in is the player who hasn't emailed me back since Thursday (even though he sent the first volley in the exchange and contrary to my ramblings here, I can be damn charming when I set my mind to it). I could always follow up with him, it is allowed. Then it becomes an issue of should I even want to (I admit it, he's hot, I do) but if wanted to continue contact with me, then he would be so I should just let it wither away... or do I take an active role? Or would what I tell myself is taking an active role be more like taking a desperate one? Tell me Internet! To email or not to email?
Then butterfly man has to go and get all difficult. We had moved on to emailing from our personal accounts and he seemed nice enough, if a bit odd. I had told him on Thursday that I'd be busy with the air show and MIA till Monday. He wrote back and said have a nice weekend you're super fabulous etc etc. I emailed him yesterday and no response. Hey now. This is not how it's supposed to work. You can't switch from being all persistent and heyheyheyheyHEY and now just be all pfft whatever, maybe I'll email you, maybe I won't. Brain does not compute!
Then there's Mr. Nudge. Got matched a couple weeks ago, went through the question stage and I looked at his pictures and decided to let him wither. (He used to be in the military and the pictures from that time look nice and the pictures from now that he put up are...not as). A few days ago he 'nudged' me, so I sent step 2 must haves and can't stands and he's decided to leapfrog the rest and move straight to email. Gave me his facebook name and cell number so we can chat or I can just email him back via EH. So I'll email him back, I suppose.
Was talking about it with R at the air show who has done the whole online thing and she was all you just have to do it and meet people and that's the only way to know and I hate that. I'm terrible at dating for one and while it's easy enough to mask indifference or not that into it ness over email, is less easy in person.
Overall, a big whatever of a week. I'll just have to console myself with dreaming of flight suits....
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